Once your loved one has made it through the first two years of sobriety, you may be starting to feel a bit better. Has your trust returned? Probably not completely. Do you feel secure that you are now in a normal relationship with a person who is stable, who you can now count on to ‘always’ be there in a healthy way? Maybe, but just as likely not.

Being in relationship with a person with two to five years of sobriety, is, like all relationships, challenging. Once your loved one has a couple of years under their belt, they are starting to feel better, beginning to feel normal again and are often starting to spread their wings in many ways. Some of the things you may notice at this point may include:

• a better home life – they are trying to help out more and want to be a part of the family again
• a strong and growing career focus – less compulsive, but strong
• returning solid values based on the work they have been doing since getting sober
• interest in making friend connections again both within and outside of the program
• back to old interests they may have had before drugs became a problem in their life – or that were there all along – only this time, without the need to be high to enjoy them
• a move away from their entire life being wrapped up in recovery. they are now starting to use some of their evenings for things other than meetings
• some of the immature behavior you saw during the first two years starting to dissipate as they work to move beyond the emotional level they were at when they first started using

For the family of an addict or alcoholic, life in early sobriety can be a continuation of the roller coaster ride of addiction. Yet, it’s an entirely new experience in a very new theme park. The addict is now who they always were with one exception: no drugs or alcohol. And what an exception that is!

But if you are expecting that once your loved one stops using all your troubles are over, think again. For many families, this time could be fraught with any number of challenges, such as:

• your concern that the sobriety won’t last
• your surprise and disappointment when they want to spend most of their time with their other sober friends and very little of it with the family
• their lack of interest in family events and activities
• their lack of interest in helping out around the house
• they may have no job and no interest in getting one at least for awhile
• they may display a lack of general productivity
• they may become total workaholics to make up for lost time
• they may be indifferent to focusing on their recovery
• fill in the blanks for whatever challenges the new sobriety is bringing to your home.

So, what is a family to do?

In a family I know, when the husband first got sober 30 years ago, the wife was complaining to Frank, an AA/Alanon friend, that her husband wasn’t helping around the house the way he used to. The dishes were piling up, as was the laundry. The wife explained that she used to be able to count on him to go to the laundry room at least 3x per week and that had made her life so much easier (it later came out during his active addiction he had a habit of going to the laundry room to do lines of cocaine along with each load of clothes – but she didn’t yet know that!).

Now she had to do everything herself and all her husband wanted to do was go to meetings, hang out with his new friends, take naps, watch TV and work a few hours a day. She didn’t like it. Plus, he would not go to family events no matter how much she guilted or nagged him. The house was getting to be a mess because she wasn’t cleaning up after him and he had suddenly become a slob.

Her friend Frank’s answer, “If you want clean dishes, clean them. If you want clean laundry, wash it. If you want a neat house, pick up whatever is lying around. If you want to go to family events, go. If not, leave everything exactly where it is. What he does or does not do is none of your business. In other words,” he concluded, “Sit down, shut up, and smile.”

Frank further enlightened the wife on the first year of sobriety by explaining that it was probably taking every bit of her husband’s energy reserves to stay sober and figure out this new way of living without substances. And that if she liked the idea of living with someone sober, it would be in her best interest, for the next year, to simply do her own thing, treat him with dignity and respect, and not have any expectations of what he would or would not do to improve the quality of her life, their home or their family life.

At first, she felt angry. After all, she didn’t go through all that she had gone through to be single while married!!!

But then, she listened some more. Frank went on to explain that if she took care of herself and her responsibilities without putting pressure on her recovering husband over the course of the first year and if she went to meetings and worked her own program, she would most likely find that after a year or so, with his sobriety becoming an established habit, he would begin to reestablish himself as a contributing member of their coupleship and the family as well.

Mmmm…she thought about it and decided to take her wise friend’s words seriously. Frank had been sober for many years himself, was a member of Alanon too, and understood the dynamic of what happens in early sobriety and what it takes to make it stick.

So, she did a few things differently: she started taking care of those household chores that mattered to her and stopped nagging her husband to pull his weight, knowing that most of his energy was needed at that point in time to stay on the recovery path.

If a social or family event came up, instead of bugging him to go, she went if she wanted to and stayed home if she didn’t. When people asked where he was, she told them whatever she felt like telling them – usually something like: he couldn’t make it or he was busy or he was tired or he needed some at home time or he had a meeting – and she stopped caring about what they must be thinking or how she and her husband were ‘fitting in’ with those around them.

In other words. she got her priorities straight. She put her husband’s sobriety and the future their family first. She saw that if she was willing to be patient and keep the focus of her own “improvement advice” on herself rather than on him, she could contribute to a sober future for their family.

But, what about his behavior, you may ask. Was he this perfect sober person? Was he acting in ways that were risking his sobriety and if she saw them what did she do? Honestly, those are great questions. I’m glad you asked! There were times, at the beginning of her husband’s first sobriety and at the beginning of his latest and current sobriety which began 10 years ago, when she was worried.

When she noticed behaviors which indicated a potential back slide, what she  learned over the years was that “Sit down, Shut up and Smile” (also known as the three S’s) does not apply to these situations in the same way it applies to household chores and social events.

What she learned works instead, and what I teach,  is that Being a Loving Mirror (TM) is just as valid and important in early sobriety (and throughout a relationship really) as it is when an addict is using. And here is how to use it in early sobriety:

• If you notice your loved one skipping meetings, speaking in ways that are reminiscent of his  addiction days, yelling at you (if for instance he was a rage-aholic during his addiction), or acting in other ways that set off an alarm that he might be sliding backwards or about to, find a quiet time to speak privately with him and let him know what you are seeing, without judgement or anger, just factually.
• In the beginning, let your partner know that you are  going to be a new kind of partner to him, that you are no longer going to watch him act in ways that seemed dangerous or scary to you and ignore them, or yell about them, or beg or plead or talk about them behind his back. Instead, that you are going to name them to him objectively so he can count on having someone watching his back.
• If your loved one wants wellness and sobriety, he will probably be glad to have you do it theoretically, though, in the moment of your giving him the feedback it will probably be the last thing he wants to hear.
•  That’s why the loving mirror approach is so powerful. You state what you see without emotion, provide your boundaries in the situation (if appropriate and necessary), and then stop. No long lectures, no opinions, no nagging.
• Facts, boundaries, stop.

Of course, this is a sensitive process that often requires support to learn, practice and pull off and it is what I help my clients figure out when and how to most effectively do. In many families, this happens several times in early sobriety, and your willingness to be there, without judgment, as a mirror of what is going on, will give your loved one additional nugget of feedback to more quickly get back on track.

This is not about you being so powerful. It’s about learning tools that have the best chance of making a difference. Of course, it will be  up to your loved one to respond and wake back up. That part  is not ever in the family member’s hands. Results are out of your hands as a family member of an addicted loved one.

Only the power to respond powerfully with recovery principles is yours to embrace. Detachment in early sobriety means letting go of the results. Sometimes, to encourage a united family approach to this work, I work with both family member and the recovering loved one, at least for a short time,  to help both get on the same page vis-a-vis communication and growing together.

During your loved one’s first year of sobriety,  start looking at how you want to live and begin doing so! Find some new interests and friends and begin enjoying your life more, and  let go of the worry of what your loved one might be doing or not doing.

Interestingly enough, at the end of the first year, the wife I told you about above noticed a slight shift in her husband. He began to want to attend family events. He started offering to do the dishes occasionally or even cook dinner. They started to go to meetings together as well as have coffee with couples they met who were in AA and Alanon, and they started to enjoy a family life that over the years grew into something much better than what they had had before he got sober or during that first year.

In sum, the lessons of going through early sobriety with a loved one are very similar to going through active using with them:

• Keep the focus on yourself
• Treat your loved one with dignity and respect
• Be a Loving Mirror - give honest, objective, loving feedback to what you are seeing – and then let go of results and get the focus back on yourself.
• Use recovery principles to guide your life
• Let go of expectations

Many of us try each of these roles on to see if they will work. When we first see the person we love using substances or acting out in ways that frighten or confuse us, we can’t believe our eyes. We ask them what is going on and when they tell us it’s us, that we are imagining things, we often believe them. We find ourselves shaking our heads and rubbing our eyes. We don’t want to believe that someone we have loved so dearly as a friend, lover, child, parent or co-worker is seriously caught in the web of self-deception and destructive behavior that it appears we are seeing.

We ask again, when we see that the behavior isn’t changing, and as their denial grows, we either go into a shell, or we start to cry, beg, and scream at them about what they are doing to themselves and to us. Usually, our words, tears and yelling fall on deaf ears. Sometimes they threaten us that they will leave or hurt us if we continue to bother us. Their intimidation frightens some of us and enrages others. Regardless, we are a loss as to how to proceed. So we try something else…

In some cases, that something else means moving out or kicking them out, but, either way, we often  go back or let them back in even though nothing has changed. In other cases, we stay put but ignore them as best we can. Sometimes, we berate them every chance we get, while allowing them to continue to abuse and berate us and put our families in danger  by driving high, having illegal substances in the car and/home, missing work and losing jobs, having guns in the home that they could be using while high or drunk, etc. And of course, this list of possible ways we may react and they may behave is hardly exhaustive.

This concludes part one of a 3 part blog on Key 7. Stay tuned for part two in which we will discuss a new way of relating to yourself and your loved one that could make a big difference!

Until then I am still,

Coach Bev

www.beverlybuncher.com

786 859 4050

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Life happens. And when it does, in full force, how do you respond?

A teacher of mine used to say that it’s not how we respond when things get extremely difficult, but rather how we deal with day to day life when things are going okay that determines the strength of our character. He said that many of us will fall apart, at least initially, when really bad things happen. But, those of us who have some good habits in place overall, will be able to bounce back to them and get our lives back on track more quickly and effectively.

So, where are you in your life right now? Is it one of those “everything is falling apart” times, or are one or two things difficult right now? Or perhaps you are dealing with one huge issue with a family member that is hitting on your last nerve…

Wherever you are in your life, it’s not too late to look at how you cope and make a decision to put some tools into place to help you get your inner life stable so you can handle whatever life is handing you.

Here are a few of the things I am being reminded of as I go through a challenging portion of life these days.

Having a meditation practice in place and using it helps. My good friend Scaughdt, the Peace Pilgrim, calls his practice “Prayditation”. Whatever you call it, have a practice in place. For me, I commit to a minimum of 5 minutes of meditation three times each day, focusing on the breath and simply Being during that time. Afterwards, I think of the things I’m worried about and turn them over to God. Not everyone adds prayer to their meditation, but it works for me.

There are times when I do so for only those five minutes and others for as long as 40 or even 60 minutes. But, the commitment is for 5 minutes no matter what. The  reason for the small commitment is so that I will get myself to sit ‘no matter what’ else is going on in my life.

To be honest, when everything completely falls apart, like when my dad had his 3^rd heart attack in a week and I was at the hospital from early morning til late at night, I forgot to meditate completely. It could have helped me at the time I admit it, but the first two weeks I was totally running on adrenaline. It took a month for me to realize that my life was out of whack, and I was able to trace it back to my having abandoned my daily practice.  No, I’m not being hard on myself! I understand and get why that happened.

Because I had a prior practice in place, as soon as I woke up to the fact that I was off track in key areas of self care, sanity and patience, I started my practice again and very quickly started to regain a sense of centered calm, even in the middle of ongoing storms in several areas of life.

Having a meditation practice is key self care practice for me and each time I take a break from it  I get clearer about why it is so important. What do you have in place to keep you calm and peaceful inside so you can better handle life on life’s terms?

Being loving to those around me is a big part of the picture. I work on lovingkindness in my life and do my best to be kind and patient with those I come in contact with as much as possible. Sometimes, being loving means letting go and letting another person handle their own stuff and not interfering. Sometimes, it means lending a helping hand. Learning to discern which is appropriate when is a process that can take years to learn, or at least a course or two, and is a conversation for another day. Being loving can be really difficult when your own inner resources are depleted or taxed to the limit. Visiting my daughter earlier this year, I found myself able to be patient and loving in some challenging circumstances because I made sure I was taking care of myself. I also noticed that as my own self care diminished, so, too, did my ability to be loving. Family recovery calls us to be loving as the alternative contributes to the dysfunction rather than the recovery of the family. So, self care and being loving are seen here to be closely entwined.

Setting boundaries is also easier when we are thinking clearly and feeling good about ourselves. In recovery, we set boundaries that work for us. We set boundaries in order to be able to That means figuring out what I can handle and what I can’t and taking a stand when necessary to say no to extra burdens that I cannot bear. Those burdens might be other’s emotional issues, extra projects at work, or taking on responsibilities that really belong to other people. When

Another thing that works is having support. Whether it’s a coach, therapist, spiritual director, support group or some combination of these, using these supports regularly builds emotional strength for the times when you need it. Also, having a list of friends to reach out to and share what is going on helps tremendously. I have my four or five people who I know I can call no matter what and I do call them. When things are going haywire, I keep their numbers close by and try to take turns calling different ones at different times so I won’t overdo it on anyone friend. Though I didn’t attend many sessions of anything when my dad was at his sickest, my bank account stayed full long enough until I could start going again and I did use the phone to talk to people who are my emotional supporters. Having an animal in your life helps too. I have a dog named Hercules who makes a world of difference in my life, and I know others who benefit from the emotional support of an animal companion when their world spins out of control and even when it doesn’t.

If you have read my work over the years, you know that these four foundations of self care, being loving, setting boundaries and having support are foundational to living a life in recovery, especially for family members.  I have grown in my understanding and commitment to the need to make meditation central to the self care routine over the years and breathing through the day, even through each moment of the day can be tremendously helpful in handling life’s pressures large and small.

When we do this, day in and day out, when the big storms come, we are prepared for them and better able to weather them.

How well are you prepared? Are your foundations strong? There’s never a better day than today to begin. Choose a foundation and work on it. You can read more about each of these four foundations in more detail by doing a search on the 12stepfamily.com website for each one. Drop me a line to let me know how it’s going and if I can be of help, let me know that too!

Best,

Coach Bev

There are many ways to pursue breathwork. Many forms of meditation focus on the breath, as does yoga. I sit in meditation most mornings and focus on my breath. When I do so regularly, I carry a sense of calm into the rest of my day that allows me to relax from within, think more clearly and breathe through good or bad news rather than do what I used to do.

Have you ever gotten upset and gasped? Next time you do, watch what happens next. Often, you will simply hold your breath as if doing so will keep away any more bad news. It doesn’t work AND it lessens your ability to cope with the news you are hearing.

This keys asks that you not do that. That if you find yourself gasping, you let the air out of that gasp and quite consciously continue to breathe, slowly and steadily, in and out. You’ll be amazed at how calm this simple practice will help you stay.

So, what if you try to do so and you simply can’t? What if you are so tense and involved with waiting for the other shoe to drop that your sense of calm has gone out the window and your breathing is not something you feel you can use to help you regain it?

Don’t despair!

Here are two exercises that will help you practice improving your ability to do so.

Exercise #1:

Whenever the phone rings, instead of mindlessly reaching for it, do this instead:

As soon as you hear the phone ring, breathe in deeply and slowly as you reach for it. Then, let your breath out and answer it. Just this exercise alone will bring you a sense of calm and mindfulness. You will become aware of a well of silence in the midst of your busy day that you can dip into at will. Your shoulders will relax and your mind will as well.

Exercise #2:

Anytime you are about to reach for your door knob to enter or leave your home or answer a knock on the door, do this before opening it:

As you are turning the knob, breathe in deeply and slowly. Then, let your breath out and open the door. This will allow you to break that expectation of “waiting for the other shoe to drop”.  Life is to be lived in seconds and moments and the stillness can add peace to every one of our moments regardless of what is happening in the world around us.

Doing these practices or any breathing practices doesn’t immunize you from upset, trauma or difficulty. Rather, it provides a deep source of silence within yourself that you can count on to give you greater peace and patience to handle life on life’s terms, one day at a time.

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These past few weeks have been like that for me,  ironically after a few weeks of thinking I was doing so well and handling all of life’s zingers with the perfect combination of dignity and grace.

I’ve been somewhat out of commission for the past few weeks and just want to let you all know that when things come back to earth, I will write more about the experience.

In the meantime, just want to say a belated HAPPY THANKSGIVING. I am grateful for you, my readers, for my family and friends, and for life, and prayerful that things will soon be well again on all fronts.

Looking forward to communicating again. Just taking a brief hiatus to take care of family and self.

Love to you all,

Bev

This post will give you an introduction to both. For a more detailed account, you can read James Prochaska’s book Changing for Good.

Stage  Six – Recycling OR Termination –

First we will look at Recycling. When the changer gives up on “the grind”, he goes through what Prochaska calls Recycling or “Learning from Relapse”.

This stage is when a changer, even after great progress, goes back to the behavior they changed earlier. They start drinking or eating or gambling again and their life begins to deteriorate, sometimes slowly, sometimes rather quickly.

Relapse may come on the heels of a family tragedy or due to letting go of the supports that have kept the maintenance going. Or it may be the result of not having been ready to make the change in the first place.

Whatever caused it, when recycling comes, it puts the changer back to the beginning, but not quite. The work and learning she went through is still in her somewhere. Most recyclers don’t give up and are willing to start again. So, this is truly a learning stage.

Harm Reduction expert and author Patti Denning calls this stage “Back to the Drawing Board” and Prochaska says that his research shows that recycling often leads to contemplation, preparation and action again and that most changers need to go through the cycle 3-4 times before being able to get to the final iteration. If self change does not work after several tries, it may be time to get help or to try a different path than the one you have tried again.

Termination – Termination occurs when the changer is finished cycling through the Stages of Change on a specific change. The point is, the struggle is over, the person no longer has the problem in their life. It is resolved.

Some say this never truly occurs. Others believe it is possible.

Prochaska calls this stage “exiting the Stages of Change” and Denning calls it the “I’m over it” stage. While it can take awhile to get there, it is the aspiration of many to do so and more research and writing points in the direction of it being possible.

The 6 Stages of Change, taught in treatment centers, by coaches and by therapists, are useful for the addict to know about and for the family as well. Anything that leads to empathy for oneself and others can be useful as one works through life’s challenges!

Best,

Coach Bev

Beverly Buncher, MA, PCC, CTPC

Facilitating Family Recovery

www.beverlybuncher.com

786 859 4050

Stage 5: Maintenance – Now that the action is becoming habitual, the challenge is to keep on keeping on. Prochaska calls this stage “Staying there” and for good reason. Ever go on a diet and after awhile say to yourself, “I have been so good. I deserve that ice cream!” For some people a diet is all they need and they can go back to everyday eating.

But for those who have worked through stages of change to get to this point, or those who did so without much intention, going back now can spell disaster! This stage, post-action, is the one that will make all the difference.

At this point, the changer may have to put new supports into place, get therapy to work on the deeper wounds that need to be healed so they won’t be eaten over or smoked over or whatever the changer’s drug of choice is. Old friends may have been left behind in the action stage.

In the maintenance stage, it is crucial to form a new community to avoid the loneliness that could lead the changer back to the old, destructive crowd. At this stage, you are no longer holding off the old habits. Rather, you are building a new life to support a whole new way of living that will keep you alive and healthy and hopefully much happier in the long run than you have been in the past.

To make this stage, which can stretch from 2 to 10 years, stick, you may have to go through some mud. Some feelings of wishing you could return to the “good old days”, some feelings of “just one” that you ignore and find replacements for. Understanding that just one may take you back to square may not be enough.

Putting new supports into place to insure your way of life is a requirement. You may feel like it’s just not worth it at times, but unless going back to the truly bad old days is an option for you, you will do what it takes to keep your hard won victories in place.

Patti Denning (author of Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Managing Alcohol and Drugs) calls this stage “the grind” and it’s a well earned title.

There are legions of stories about people who quit drinking, drugging, or smoking and held these habits at bay for a very long time, only to have a life challenge throw them back over the edge. Though there is no absolute insurance against life’s traumas and their impact, there is nothing like building a new life with powerful scaffolding in place to stave off the effects of the inevitable stresses of life.

If you or a loved one are struggling with  one of the stages of change and would like some support, coaching can help! To find out how, let’s talk! To set up a complimentary consult, click here or give me a call at 786 859 4050.

And/or keep on reading! Next time, we will look at what can happen at the end of the maintenance stage or if you are unable to maintain at all…

Best,

Coach Bev

Beverly Buncher, MA, PCC, CTPC

The Beverly Buncher Company

Facilitating Family Recovery

www.beverlybuncher.com

786 859 4050

Stage 4: Action – Up until recently, most people just thought of Action as the change.

“Why don’t you just change?”

“Just do it!”

Even now,  people unfamiliar with the Stages of Change model, don’t realize all that must go into preparing for the actual action to take root and become the person’s new reality. Prochaska calls the Action stage “Time to Move”  and indeed it is!

At this stage, it is time to put all of the preparation into action. There may be some mourning as old friends must be let go of for a time and new types of activities and supports put into place. Depending on the nature of the change, help may be necessary to make this change last.

This stage can last for several months  as one adjusts to a new way of life. It’s amazing how much has to happen before the action takes place but now the time has come and if all of the thinking and preparing has been done in advance, the action step has a much greater chance of succeeding.

Of course, there is still much to do. Here is where the rubber meets the road: taking it all and putting it into practice, one day at a time. It is a time of great excitement and tremendous adjustments – exhilarating and excruciating at the same time. Denning calls this the “Just Do It” stage.

To learn more about how to reduce the harm from your or your loved one’s problem behaviors, join me for a call tomorrow evening when I will be interviewing Kenneth Anderson, author of How to Change Your Drinking: A Harm Reduction Guide to Alcohol and Director of the HAMS Network, an online support group for people working on managing their drug and alcohol usage in order to reduce the harmful consequences they may be currently experiencing. You can sign up at http://beverlybuncher.com/key-5-teleseminar-on-harm-reduction-little-steps-to-big-changes/

All the best,

Coach Bev

The Beverly Buncher Company

Facilitating Family Recovery

786 859 4050

Stage 3: Preparation – Prochaska calls the Preparation stage the “Getting Ready” stage and says that most people in this stage plan to make their change within the month. They have set the date and are involved in activities to help them get ready for the big day.

This stage is important because without the proper planning, the big day may last only that long. The changer at this point may be thinking about what they will do instead of their habit, how they will avoid triggers, how they will begin and how they will keep going.

Whether the  changer is  a parent who wants to stop yelling at their addicted child, an addict who wants to get clean, one who wants to keep using drugs but stop sharing needles, or someone who wants to start flossing every night, without adequate preparation, the change they are planning probably will not last.

There may be a support group to join or a recovery coach or therapist to hire. There may be new activities and friends to find. There may be clean needles or floss to purchase. Thinking about and planning for these are just the tip of the iceberg of what a changer may need to put into place to make their new habit work.

Thus, adequate preparation can have a huge impact on the success of their foray into the next step.  Patti Denning (author of Over the Influence: The Harm Reduction Guide to Managing Alcohol and Drug Use)calls this stage the “uh-oh” stage because plans are becoming real and concrete and the difficulties lying ahead begin to become clearer.

This week, I will be interviewing Kenneth Anderson, author of How to Change Your Drinking: The Harm Reduction Guide to Alcohol at 7 PM ET on Wednesday, October 26th.  Ken runs a network for  those struggling with addictive behaviors who wish to explore options other than a 12 step, total abstinence approach.

To learn more, go to: http://beverlybuncher.com/key-5-teleseminar-on-harm-reduction-little-steps-to-big-changes/.

To sign up to join us or to receive the audio by email, godirectly to:http://forms.aweber.com/form/62/1652809962.htm

Looking forward to seeing you then! And, of course, to learn more about the 6 stages of change,catch my  next blog post on the Action Stage!

Best,

Coach Bev

www.beverlybuncher.com

786 859 4050