Often when we think of boundary setting, we think of controlling other people. getting them to improve their behavior or get better. But in the context of family recovery, boundary setting is a truly selfish act – in a very positive way!
When we set boundaries with an addict in our lives, it often at [...]
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How Boundary Setting Relates to Keeping The Focus On Yourself
What Do You Do When You Get “Bad News” About Your Loved One’s Behavior?
As a parent or spouse or sister, there will be times when the active addict in your life will do things that worry or upset you. Maybe that’s already happened in your life. Chances are, if you are reading this blog, it has.
So, what do you do? Do you react, with every worried bone [...]
Is Your Addict Mean? To Cope, Ask Yourself These Questions
Ever have to deal with mean, verbally abusive language from your addicted loved ones? If so, you know how difficult it can be to cope with! As we have discussed before, using The Four Foundations of Family Recovery, namely: self care, being a loving person, setting boundaries, and getting support, can really help when things [...]
What It Means To Be A Loving Person – A Parent’s Journey to Growth
One of the most difficult things for many parents to do is to stand by and watch one of their children struggle without offering help. And yet, often this is what parents are called to do. Sometimes, allowing another person to work through their own challenges is absolutely the most loving thing a parent can [...]
Waiting for the pot to boil – When will the addict get well?
Being related to an addict who is actively using can be like waiting for the pot to boil. You keep hoping and praying that this person you love will wake up and get their life together. You watch, you wait, you watch some more. And the more you watch and the more you wait, the [...]
Trudging The Road Of Happy Destiny
When times get tough, this expression, “trudging the road of happy destiny” from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous keeps me going. It reminds me that we are not to expect nor are we expected to arrive at our destination instantaneously, nor is it always going to be pleasant, easy, or fun. Nor will we [...]
Eating as a Metaphor for Living
As recently as this morning, I had a meal. 2 eggs, a cup of fruit, 4 oz of oatmeal. I watched myself eat this meal and found myself go in and out of present moment awareness two or three times, despite the fact that I was not reading, talking, or watching TV.
In fact, [...]
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