Have you noticed any link in your life between how you eat and how you relate to people? One of the ways that some codependents cope with the insanity in their life is to stuff their feelings down with food.

There is a saying that Reality is for people who can’t cope with drugs. I think this holds for those who have a challenge with overeating as well. Reality is for people who can’t cope with overeating.

Using other people’s problems (their addictions, their dysfunctional behaviors, etc.) to keep us distracted from our own doesn’t work. When we face the fact that we cannot use other people’s problems to keep us distracted from our own challenges, we have to look our lives straight in the eyes and if we don’t like what we see, we have a choice, work on changing it, work on accepting it, or find something else to distract us.

Food has always been a great distractor for me. If I overeat, then I feel sick physically and begin to worry about gaining weight. If I overeat long enough I get sick and have physical worries to attend to as a result, to say nothing of having to buy a new wardrobe. With all of that attention on the physical aspect of my life, there is not much time left to focus on the realities of my life that I could change for the better if I had the energy to do so…things like my attitudes, the way I handle money, the way I relate to others. All of these could use some improvements, but if my body feels sick because I can’t stop overeating AND if I’m constantly eating, I don’t have much energy left to give to making my life the way I want it to be.

So food can provide us with another excuse for not having the life we want to have – just the way being related to an addict can – or for an addict, just the way the drug or drink can.

Since excuses don’t work, it’s time to get that mirror out and take a look beyond the body image directly to the eyes.

Coaching Questions:
What are you running from? What is running you?

Are you ready to stop yet?

Ready to say “Uncle!” ?

There is so much help out there in the form of support groups, coaching, treatment.

You don’t have to go it alone. But you do have to take the first step.

Reach out TODAY to get the help you need!

Here are some places you may want to look:
food addiction: www.overeatersanonymous.org
co-addiction: www.naranon.org
co-alcoholism: www.alanon.org
a social network for people in recovery: www.intherooms.com

and if you would like to start with a coach to help you sort it all out, call me today for a complimentary session!

Coach Bev

Beverly A. Buncher
Family Recovery Coach
author of the forthcoming book The Four Foundations of Family Recovery
www.theempowermentcoach.net
www.12stepfamily.com
www.lifepurposeinrecovery.com
786 859 4050