Your addict has been sober for 2-5 years! Seems like forever and yet, you are still a bit nervous. Everyday is new, yet, after awhile, you start to wonder, “Will this stick?” Especially if s/he is struggling or shifting the number of meetings per week or choosing a different path, you may be having a [...]
Living with An Addict in Early Sobriety: “Sit down, Shut up and Smile”
12 Keys to Sanity, addiction and recovery, Al Anon, being a loving mirror, early sobriety, early sobriety and the family, family recovery, Family Recovery Coaching, Focus on You, he's sober - what do I do now?, how to cope with a loved one's early sobriety, how to live with a newly sober loved one, relationships in recovery, she's clean - now what?, spouses of addicts, the addict's mom, Uncategorized, wife of an addict, wives of addicts // March 18, 2012Your addict is newly sober! It’s what you’ve dreamed of for years and “suddenly” it is here! While they are still in treatment, you feel safe and secure. You know where they are every night. There is no worrying, no fear. But then they come home. Now what? This is part one of a series [...]
Sobriety or Active Using: There is only one message for family members of addicts!
12 Keys to Sanity, 6 Stages of Change, Addiction, Al Anon, being a loving mirror, family recovery, Family Recovery Coaching, Focus on You, trudging, wife of an addict, wives of addicts // March 5, 2012This morning I began writing my blog for family members. I decided to focus on life in sobriety. As I started writing, I found myself writing just about what I usually write for families struggling with using addicts - and then it hit me! There is only one message. One message when they are using [...]
Tips for Dealing with Your Loved One Struggling with Addictive Behaviors
12 Keys to Sanity, 12 Steps Program, 6 Stages of Change, Addiction, addiction and recovery, Al Anon, Alateen, Alcohol, being a loving mirror, children of addicts, dads of addicts, family recovery, Family Recovery Coaching, Florida Nar-Anon, Focus on You, forgiveness, how to get them sober, moms of addicts, parents of addicts, relating to an addict, wife of an addict, wives of addicts // February 25, 2012Hi Everyone! Dealing with an addict’s behavior is one of the toughest things a family member, friend or work colleague can be asked to do! My colleague Melissa Killeen calls the harm done to the family part of the collateral damage of addiction and she asked me, as an expert in family recovery coaching, to [...]
The Four Cornerstones of Family Recovery – excerpt from my forthcoming book!
12 Keys to Sanity, 6 Stages of Change, Al Anon, the Four C's, The Six Stages of Change, wife of an addict // February 15, 2012Overview of Section Two: The Four Cornerstones of Family Recovery Now that you’ve become acquainted with the three relationships, there are four things you will need to be aware of to take your recovery to the next level. These interactive ideas about recovery can spell the difference between continuing to view your loved one as [...]
Setting Boundaries: Will it force him to choose between his drugs and me???
12 Keys to Sanity, Al Anon, Alateen, being a loving mirror, family recovery, Family Recovery Coaching, spouses of addicts, trudging, wife of an addict, wives of addicts // February 2, 2012This month’s Keys are The Four Foundations: Self Care, Being a Loving Person, Setting Boundaries, and Getting Support. I received this letter last night from a reader wondering how setting boundaries would affect her addict’s behaviors… Dear Coach Bev, I have a boyfriend who is a drug addict. I know I am a codependent but [...]
What Can I Do to Help My Addicted Loved One?
12 Keys to Sanity, 12 Steps Program, 6 Stages of Change, addiction and recovery, Al Anon, the addict's mom, the Dilemma of the Alcoholic Marriage, the Four C's, wife of an addict // January 30, 2012This week ends my month long visit to Addictionland as their Expert of the Month. Here is the link to a blog I wrote about what it is like to watch a loved one kill themselves with substances and options of ways to get help for YOU… http://www.addictionland.com/blogs/entry/qhow-can-i-help-my-addicted-love-oneq.html Thanks for reading! Best, Coach Bev [...]
There is Purpose Within and Beyond Recovery!
life purpose coaching in recovery, life purpose in recovery, True Purpose, true purpose coaching for addicts and co-addicts, True Purpose in Recovery // January 24, 2012This month, I was asked to be the Expert Blogger for addictionland.com. Here is a post I wrote about the difference finding your detailed life purpose can make in your recovery. To read more, click here.
What about the families of addicts? Despite the pain, there is hope
12 Keys to Sanity, addiction and recovery, Al Anon, being a loving mirror, wife of an addict, wives of addicts // January 18, 2012For every addict /alcoholic who goes into treatment, there are 5-20 family members on average affected by their disease and at least half that many, whose behaviors may have a direct impact on the addict in early recovery and beyond. For every addict/alcoholic who never makes it to treatment, there are just as many family [...]
Key 7: You are Your Loved One’s Best Chance at Recovery – Part One
12 Keys to Sanity, 12 Steps Program, 6 Stages of Change, Relapse Prevention, sanity, Uncategorized // January 8, 2012Think about it: What role do you play in whether or not your loved one chooses to get clean and sober? Are you their savior? A supportive friend? A boss/controller? A begger? An enemy? Or simply a minor character in their process? Many of us try each of these roles on to see if they [...]
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